Sheila was admitted as a solicitor in 1993 and started her career with with Clifford Chance, London before joining Thomas Eggar (now merged with Irwin Mitchell) and subsequently as a partner with MacDonald Oates LLP, Hampshire. She qualified as a family mediator in 2007 with Resolution and as a civil & commercial mediator with ADRg in 2008 and is also CEDR accredited and a registered mediator with the Civil Mediation Council. Sheila holds an MSc in psychology and has a specialist interest in the neuroscience and psychology of conflict and trauma which enhances her training offer. In addition to training and mediating civil and commercial disputes, Sheila also continues to maintain a part time legal practice as a commercial property solicitor. She is passionate about creating positive dispute resolution outcomes for clients and limiting the time, cost and emotional impact of conflict. She has conducted interviews with Radio 4’s The Today Programme, Sky and ITV, Radio 2 and 5 live on legal developments concerning mediation and is on the UK Ministry of Justice register of experts.
Fascinated by developments in neuroscience and how these can enhance dispute resolution outcomes, Sheila has spent time researching the neuroscience of conflict and is in the process of writing a book on the subject. She is also studying to become a psychologist with a view to introducing the benefits of this discipline into mediation training to further enhance the professional management of conflict.
Sheila is an industry trainer and mentor and is a Resolution trained professional practice consultant for family mediators. She conducts training through The Mediation Specialists for professionals in law, mediation and organizational management across the private and public sectors wishing to enhance their conflict management skills and their understanding of the dynamics of conflict. She has also conducted training for professionals as a registered Law Society professional development provider. Sheila trained as an Institute of Leadership and Management “Action Learning Facilitator” and in this role works with small groups within companies, organizations and professions on an ongoing basis over a series of months to enhance professional development, problem solving and conflict management skills.
Sheila is a psychologist with a specific interest in the interplay between trauma and conflict and the cognitive process of post traumatic growth. Her research can be found below:
Sheila publishes articles from time to time for the legal and mediation press. Her most recent article, ‘How to Successfully Manage Entrenched Conflict in Mediation’ was published in the Corporate Mediation Journal in 2020. https://www.elevenjournals.com/tijdschrift/cmj/2020/2/CMJ_2542-4602_2020_004_002_002.
Sheila has also contributed to a leading UK family mediation training manual ‘Family Mediation. Appropriate Dispute Resolution in a new family justice system’ 2nd ed. Lisa Parkinson -published by Family Law.
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An important factor is the cost of mediation which is much lower than that incurred in litigation. This is partly because it is shared by both of us, but also because progress is generally much better.
I think it should be law that x sessions of mediation are attempted before resorting to the courts. The benefits are enormous in other areas in addition to the core Ancillary Relief. Our working relationship and trust over the coming years is equally important as the simple matter of a negotiated settlement
The improvement Sheila has made to X’s and my relationship has been enormous. In the early part of the mediation we discussed painful matters relating to the separation; reasons why, fears, sorrow and anger. Emerging from 2 years of litigation, this was an incredible and important move forward. It would not have happened without mediation”
Happy Christmas Sheila. Never got chance to say thanks for everything you did for me. But thank you. You are amazing. Hope Santa brings you everything you want…I honestly don’t think I’d have been able to do this without your great help. Never forget you do a fantastic job. Smile emoji. Thank you
Not only does negotiated financial settlement leave both parties more satisfied with the outcome, but in the case where there are children, the relationship between the parents has a huge influence on their happiness; the harmony between the parents will be picked up by them. Sheila’s mediation has enabled us to take great strides in that direction.
Your ability to keep the meetings focused and civil was essential in order for us to achieve communication at this time. It has helped to create some sort of closure for me in a situation that I thought would never end or would break me at times. I am very grateful for your professionalism and compassion.
I thought I would take the opportunity to thank you for the professional and compassionate approach you handled our mediation process with. The papers, in line with what we jointly agreed, went to the county court last week and the consent order was approved. The living and children arrangements are working well and both children are much more settled in school and in themselves. Your help is much appreciated and given our personalities, the challenges associated with travel and evening work, I doubt a more equitable and better outcome for the children could have been achieved. Many thanks for your help.
A small word of thanks for your excellent mediation services. I can confirm that we finally have an order in place based on our original agreement. Thank you so much.
Sheila, thank you again for helping X and I navigate our way through what has been for both of us a very painful process.
On behalf of us both may I extend our thanks for all the help you have given us. As you know ‘seeing the wood for the trees’ can be very difficult at times like this and you have helped us both immensely focus on what is really important, and our difficult situation will be made easier for that…So we thank you. We would also be pleased to refer other couples that are having similar difficulties-none immediately that we know of but unfortunately life is such that it probably won’t be too long
